I will present featured articles to help you find that peaceful state of mind. Come back to this site often because different articles will be featured. I hope you enjoy these articles and find them inspiring.
Our ancestors hold the key
Our ancestors hold the key to much healing. It is essential that we reconcile our differences with them, and break the generational cycle of suffering. We are then free to heal, and continue on our journey to inner peace.
There is an ongoing debate about where we get our physical and emotional traits. Some argue that our traits come to us physically though genetics. Others will argue that we are programmed by our environment, primarily by the personalities of our parents or parent figures. Some believe it is both a combination of genetics and environment that mold who we are. While one or both may be true at one level, the entire concept has a fundamental flaw that hinders our development. Both are an excuse to blame who we are on some external force; to give our power to science, statistics and our parents. This leaves the children blaming the parents for their problems, and the parents blaming themselves for their children’s problems. This cycle of blame perpetuates suffering from generation to generation.
Let`s explore the concept of owning your projections. If you were to go to a banquet that served endless varieties of food, you would choose and eat the food that you desire. In the same way, you choose the parents and traits from an infinite pool that best provide the opportunity for personal spiritual growth. This is why twins could be so different. Each child has chosen the strengths and weaknesses that will serve their journey the best. So what blame does the parent deserve for the problems of the children? NONE! We have each chosen how we will feel about the world. This life is your journey and you choose 100% about the way you feel about things. When we externalize our issues or blame someone else, we relinquish responsibility for our own issues to someone else such as our parents. We become a victim to some external power that we have no control over. Healing feels out of the question since it was all caused by those “messed up parents”. The parents may be messed up, but you chose to allow the abuse to stick. When we go inside, and take ownership of our projections, and realize that our parents did the best they knew how at the time, real healing can begin.
Often times a parent will see their child with an addiction or relationship problems and feel guilty that they did not raise them correctly or teach them the proper values. These feelings of guilt and blame are very common in the world today? The same principle applies here. Each person chooses their own path. Certain traits stick to the child and certain traits pass them by, like water off a duck. It is the child`s own Karma that attracted those traits.
One technique to begin this healing process is to take a picture of one or both of your parents and place it in an area that you consider special, such as an altar. You could put some flowers around it or some objects that remind you of your parents. After a regular meditation when you are in a place of peace, stare into the eyes of the parent in the photo. Still your mind. Without expectations, be open for anything. Do this for a while every single day until you feel the shift. Your healing has begun. Enjoy!